I’ve never really been a people pleaser. I mean there are some ways where I am but when it comes to who I choose to associate with and be friends with I am so not a people pleaser.
If I want to be your friend then I’ll be your friend. I don’t care what Tom, Dick, or Harry have to say about it. I pick my friends on who can genuinely add to my life. Just because someone else around me doesn’t want me.to be around you doesn’t influence me. Heck if anything it pushes me closer to you.
I don’t live my life to make others happy. I am sure there is a large group of people who are actually greatly disappointed in how I do thing, maybe they can start a club and get jackets. If I constantly lived to make others happy I would probably be completely miserable all the time.
I don’t choose my friends to please my other friends, or my siblings or heck not even my parents. It’s just not how I work. I don’t handle ultimatums very well either. You don’t tell me I have to choose. If you do 9/10 I’ll choose the other person because they didn’t tell me I had too.
My friends help me see the fireflies so if I’ve picked you as a friend then there is a real reason. I’m not just going to squish you out of my life.
Keep searching for fireflies.